You experience something beautiful, loose it (or be afraid to loose it) and then there is pain. 'Cause you helt on to the experience it gave you.
So, 'be not attached', as you often hear, or read.
Imagine. You're a mother or father of two children. And the SS decides you to choose who of them has to go first into the gas chambers (like in the movie 'Sophies' choice')
Than you inwardly die.
Imagine. You see t h e love of your life be in another intimate relationship.
Without knowing, so you find out he/ she hided something (what's the hardest fact, because you were sure you both told eachother all important things.You were sure about that, because that's what friends do, so at least lovers, so for sure when you're in a great relationship)
I can imagine.
Does this pain come from attachment?
I'm not sure.
I also see that it is a reaction on something so totally unnatural.
So unbearable to accept.
In this situation every cell shouts out: 'no!!'
And it feels that your life flees out.
Out of every cell.
No.No. Far more than knocked down.Stabbed with a knife. A knife as sharp as can be. In your most 'you'.
Stabbed, stabbed and stabbed.
Your heart, your true being (trust, freedom, love, your 'natural state') has been attacked.
Is done harm. Mistreated.
In such an unhuman way...
Although you had a strong knowing 'Life is good'.
Because you shared love and knew how naturally it felt, and that it felt it was mentioned to be (always), like a mother/ father and a child, where this connection naturally excist.
Mother, you shouldn't be naturally attach to your children?
(Wo)man you shouldn't naturally attach to the soul you deeply feel connected with, like it was a part of you?
You should not be attached to the fact 'Life (love) is always right?'
Are you always possible to be in control of attachment?
Do you always have the choice to not being hurt, to do not let emotions take over you?
To be balanced in every situation?
To take everything 'as it is'?
Not any natural attachment at all?
There is pain and there is pain. We cannot deny it. There simply is, I think it's part of being human.
What to do with it?
I guess nothing more than accept it's there and be kind to yourself...and, like always
just true to yourself (feelings included).
Nobody to heal it than yourself,'cause only you know how deep you're wounded.
All best with it! 'Cause I know we'all deeply suffer sometimes.
We'all can come through, even it can be a long way, as long there is (self)love/ (self)care..
A whole lot of care..
A whole, whole, whole....