October 9, 2015

Question everything!


Mutual Aid Network

'Cooperatives around meaning. Pouling recources and support eachother. So we can do what we really want to do.'

October 4, 2015

The Witches

I remember something I was eleven years old, being in Ireland. Together with my two elder brothers I had a holiday hitch-hiking through the country (the first time my parents allowed me to go on holiday without them).
One day on a good moment we had a drink somewhere.
I was enjoying it together with the book I was reading, 'The Witches' by Roald Dahl.
Tom, my eldest brother, was laughing when he saw the title.
'Come Titia, I'll show you two real witches!' and he took me to another table, where two girls were sitting. He just got to know them and he explained me a bit about the thing called 'witchcraft' in what he also was interested pretty much.
I wasn't that impressed. I remember their energy.
The more he was. In the girls. And the kind of darkness they carried with them. I know it always intruiged him. Darkness.

There is black magic. There is white magic (f.e. witchcraft).
Two sides of the same coint.
A coint called manipulation.
Manipulation of the 'now'. Both want to change the 'now'. With techniques, with methods.

In both I personal don't have any interest.
No. The opposite. Every cell in my body sais: false! Don't waste your energy!

A bit more about popular techniques which are used a lot, and *seem* to be good, but are in fact manupilative I'll write soon.
So often good looking things (techniques and such) in the 'self-help industry' are not that fresh (Lemlem) at all

The difficulty called 'Titia'

Something I just wrote in dutch

October 2, 2015

Creation - Manifestation

Creation: It all has to do with.....
...something we don't know.

"What is creation? Not of the painter, or the poet, or the man who makes something out of marble; those are all things manifested. Is there something that is not manifested? Is there something that, because it is not manifested, has no beginning and no end? That which is manifested has a beginning, has an end. We are manifestations. Not of divine something or other, we are the result of thousands of years of so-called evolution, growth, development, and we also come to an end. That which is manifested can always be destroyed, but that which is not has no time. We are asking if there is something beyond all time."

Jiddu Krishnamurti

And some more words from him about creation.
In his eyes it is meditation.
Is it something in the mind.

"Meditation is the emptying of the mind of all the things that the mind has put together. If you do that -perhaps you won't, but it doesn't matter, just listen to this- you will find that there is an extraordinary space in the mind, and that space is freedom. So you must demand freedom at the very beginning, and not just wait, hoping to have it at the end. You must seek out the significance of freedom in your work, in your relationships, in everything that you do. Then you will find that meditation is creation.
Creation is a word that we all use so glibly, so easily. A painter puts on canvas a few colours and gets tremendously excited about it. It is his fulfillment, the means through which he expresses himself; it is his market in which to gain money or reputation and he calls that "creation"! Every writer "creates," and there are schools of "creative" writing, but none of that has anything to do with creation. It is all the conditioned response of a mind that lives in a particular society.
The creation of which I am speaking is something entirely different. It is a mind that is in the state of creation. It may or it may not express that state. Expression has very little value. That state of creation has no cause, and therefore a mind in that state is every moment dying and living and loving and being. The whole of this is meditation." 

October 1, 2015

September 29, 2015

Real learning

There is a great deal to learn about yourself*. It is an endless thing, it is a fascinating thing, and when you learn about yourself from yourself, out of that learning wisdom comes.

Jiddu Krishnamurti

*what only happens when you 'don't know'. With an open, fresh mind; lemlem.

Revolution or Common Sense?

I just read a very, very interesting article. 
On social change. 
And in particular on the subject 'poverty'. 

Some words which really got me were those: 

" What this means for the ordinary person is that it is futile to identify with these misunderstood terms and titles, for it is not principles that are to blame for world problems but only man himself. Thus only man can change, not capitalism or the system, because the system is merely a product of man’s thoughts and actions. The system per se doesn’t exist—only people exist, and yet because the society we have created is so divided and unjust we strangely blame ‘the system’ for our discontentment and unhappiness, which is an erroneous and potentially dangerous conclusion to reach."

As well as those:

"the word revolution breeds the word enemy, which breeds the word against; and the internal attitude of being ‘against’ breeds mental blindness and selfishness in its turn. The psychological counterpart of thinking ‘I’m against you’ is stubbornness, arrogance and violence (whether expressed inwardly or outwardly), and it invariably hardens people’s hearts and leads to fragmentation and conflict, both on an individual and societal level. The word revolution is outdated for the coming era in every respect, and now is the time for a new dispensation based on cooperation, goodwill, sharing and global unity—as well as copious amounts of common sense!

And those:

"By standing in opposition to capitalism or the corrupt system, we are therefore engaging in those old divisive processes that have led to class conflict and social marginalisation over and over again for hundreds of years."

If the world-situation keeps you busy, when 'poverty' touches you deeply, and you feel to give your own response to the situation (responsibility)  then I recommend to read all of it. You can find it here
Not a short article, but truly worth reading.

September 24, 2015

A bridge between two trees

Inviting. It's radical.

Krishnamurti tells about meditation in a total different way.
Total different.

Normally we see meditation as a tool. Or a way, a technique to let us feel better, to make us healthier, to make us more clear, etc.
We use it for the best. For a noble goal (personal health, so a more healthier society).

What Krishnamurti says is your very living, moment by moment should be called meditation.
Meditation and to live is one.
Big words, I hope you have the time to let them sink in.

It's not just something what you do beside..  It's in everything. It is everything.

Meditation in the 'normal' sense, as we know it, implies a goal.
Everyone wants to become more relaxed, unstressed, clearer, 'enlightener' and so on.

In the wanting there lays a lot.
It says you want to go from here to somewhere else (somewhere better, even it's 'for the good').
It's about becoming.
It's about results.

This is not about freedom!
Freedom is: you are already there. It's now.
If you can't take the very moment as it is, to be silent, whatever you do (in yoga clothes or not, in a specific yoga pose or not) you miss the whole point.

The point: it isn't a technique.
The point: to live isn't about techniques, theories and methods.
It's about integrity.
To be that, I think, is to take every moment as it is. Don't want to make it 'this'or 'that'.
In this way you're open, and naturally inviting more freshness, etc. The same thing you want (what means effort) when you're going to a yoga class.
When you're open it can come in.
Inviting without thoughts (thus that means no wishful thinking and law of attraction), but deeper.., with your being.
Keeping the window open so the breeze (the good) can come in.
When you're striving for the good (although it looks so 'smooth' and 'good') your starting-point isn't the right.
It isn't integer.

That's what he says.
Of course we don't have to take it as truth.
But let's explore it..!

September 22, 2015

Believe me!

There can't be people who 'tell you the true story'. Tell you 'how it is'.

It is a story.
Their story.
You can listen and maybe learn something from it. But they cannot say: 'this is the truth'.

It sais (with other words, and often nicely covered): 'believe me'.
And when you are a believer from someone else's worldview, it's actually quite dangerous.

Very dangerous.

Than you've thrown away your own power. You gave yourself away.
Your power to learn, seeing things for yourself.
Your life.
You became a follower.
You walk in other man footsteps.
How silly and how really, really dangerous.
I think it's the base of wars.
Follow other mans views.

Learn from others, I would say, but never take things for granted. Never-ever take someone else's truths (my poor mother,
she already had to explore this in me since I was very young..-thank you mama, for all your patience while I had this eightteen years of practise with you..)

If someone sais so, or you sense it, feel it, be aware...
Don't be mislead.
Always lead yourself.

Everyone has this power! 
Believe me;-)

Pain & Self-care

The 'painbody'.
It doesn't say pain doesn't exist.

There is pain and pain.
Your body can be hurt.
Your heart, being love-sick.
And I guess even your soul. 
Being itched deep as can be. 
In your being.

What is your being? 
And can it be hurt?
As you may believe some guru's you cannot. It should be untouchable.
I doubt.

A mother gives.
A child naturally takes.
But what if you give, as a mother (what means naturally with all you have), someone takes, and after that smash you away like you were nothing?

I can truly imagine that it hurts like hell.
To act fromout this, creating a 'painbody' what overrules everything, 'no'.

But to reject it, wave away that there can't be a deep pain like this, also 'no'.

To feel it...No other way.
What means: self-care...

Good luck everyone, who goes through! 

My domain

I'm very much touched by some words Vanessa Miemis wrote here.
I do so agree!

"I realized that I am the master of my domain.
It's up to me to choose to be in a relationship with it and partnership with it, and to assume responsibility for my health on all levels.

I realized that I do know what it feels when it feels right,
And that no one outside myself, no matter how benevolent or well-intentioned, can know it better than me.

We are born with the capacity to be sovereign beings.

Our world enslaves us.

If we want freedom we have to claim it." 

September 21, 2015


Walking around in a small town (or is it a big village?) called Hilversum.
Such a difference with Amsterdam, just 20 min away.
I wonder where the aliveness is, and what the things are which make Amsterdam so much more alife.
The city (or village-) streets here: just shops. Shops, shops an shops. 
I found a few shops what were really different than the rest (and one I really, really love - this little shop even has no name), the rest is just..you know.
Expensive cars drive by..
And I wonder and wonder...
Where is it all about?! 
In this place it is so obvious!
Where is the meaning in daily life?
People in the shopping streets seem to work for shopping (and enjoying holidays)  and the people in the shops seem to do their things just for the money..
Fortunately I am here in this town (or village) to work on something what has meaning for me but..
I stay in the 'wonder-modus'. Maybe I'll  find it out later on that this place has a hidden liveliness. Somewehere..

Is Amsterdam a kind of bubble?
As Knowmads Business School is, where I walk around so much?

And then, what does it say 'bubble'?
That it isn't real?
And is it good to bring some of this bubble into 'the other world', or do I really have to leave it?

Me, I think the first.
Is it a big opportunity to bring some aliveness fromout that bubble into here.
This makes me think again. Sometimes it's being said to me: 'Titia, you live in a bubble'.
Yes, my own world is a warm one. I like it. Do I have to become colder, harder?
I don't understand it.
How to do that? How to change your worldview, your being?
Maybe I am wrong. And should I indeed leave this bubble.
Conform myself.
Becoming more 'realistic'.
What does that say? 

A bit confusing, such a swich of surroundings. And in the same time to hear that I should leave 'my bubble'.
Hmmm... What to do? Curious to see what I'm gonna do those days. 
What I will do, why and how..

In the middle

"Global issues are typically characterized as an acute mismanagement of resources and power. This is woefully near-sighted. We haven’t drifted into some unfortunate, short-term imbalance of political power. We’re in the middle of a long-term, species-wide readjustment to bridge the enormous gap between the kind of contentious society our stone-age minds have built us, and the kinder, safer society we’ll have when we’ve outgrown them."  - from a great piece I found on 'Raptitude'. Read it here.

September 20, 2015

Another way

Size of the project doesn't matter.
Impact and change; it's all about another way.

It's about how to do it.

The heart involved? Integral? A strong relation as the base?

There is no blueprint for this.
No concept.  No '5 steps- how- to'.

It's about openness.
And everything what 'Life' means: love, learning, relation, trust, freedom, .... and all we can't put in words.

September 18, 2015


It's a way of doing things.
Without a strict clear end-point.

There can be made 'mistakes' along the way.
And how great mistakes are!
Wow. they are things to learn from.

It's all about the relationship.
Does the relation exist to let beauty grow? Do we really see each other?
In opposition of a strict straight-lined agreement where it's all about getting the right 'professional' results.


Isn't it a state that 'Life', the lifelines in you is suppressed?
That it cannot flow, whatever reason it has?

That your dreams, your true being cannot be, hindered by whatever wall?

Often it is a deep meeting with yourself again, and (as many people say) very worth-full.

But having the freedom to be who you are is much better..
So than it's good to explore what those walls are which keep you down. From your way.

There are walls inside your self (habits, particular thoughts, patterns), but also in society. Many!

Being free. It's something I work on, - inner work. That's Life for me, and real work.
And also outer work. Avoiding walls, fostering places where it's about freedom and letting new things emerge.

As I think from out freedom - no pressure-  the good things happen.
The new buds.

September 16, 2015

September 10, 2015

Bigger questions

Let's ask bigger questions.
How is poverty created?
Who is developing who?
What is the root?
How to end it..?

September 5, 2015

Life is good. Is it?

How can I say 'Life is good', when on the same time people deeply suffer?
HOW can I say that?

It's something often comes back in my mind.

On THIS moment, a lot of people have all kind of different pain and sufferings..
Heartbreaking situations..

This moment when I type this, again tears roll on my cheeks.

But on the other hand:
we are born. In a universe what IS just.
In society justness doesn't rule, but in Life it does.

Society is created.
The terrible world-situation, with all it's victims is created.

Intention is what create.
The inner is stonger than the outer.
The inner creates the outer.
And than I'm not talking about the power of thoughts.
Not about 'the law of attraction'.
No. A deeper level.

That is something so extremely great, that it makes me say (or shout) 'whatever what, Life IS great'.
When we fall in the pain and falseness of the system what is created than we 'play in the same game'.
Seeing ourselves as victims or identify us with them isn't the answer.
It's more easy to do, but I think we should in a way see through it.
Victims aren't helped with angryness and tears.

Another 'game'.
We'all are born with the power to co-create the rules.

Isn't this great?
Absolutely difficult but... great?

Looking at this little boy, we STILL should say it.
I wished we could take him by the hand and show him...
Letting him know that we have the chance to rebuild. Re-grow. That's the meaning of the word 'Lemlem'.
After the 40-years war in Eritrea people sung 'ne-lemlemma': let's 're-green' the country. 
Fresh, blooming..

'Country' we could replace for 'world'.
What starts with 'our world'. 
Our life, how egocentric it may look.

An insight..

Some weeks ago I had a beautiful meeting.
What made it so extremely beautiful for me is that we had a talk with so much space.
A strange opposition.
But I love that; talks with lots of silence.
As in the silence there always is so much!
If silence can be there, than it feels really good for me.
It was also good because the words we used, so the talk we had, brought me to myself.
Something very 'core'.
That's pretty unusual.
Often when you speak with someone you talk about a subject, is it just informative or is it an explanation.

I think a great facilitator/ host can 'handle' this space/ silence. Even more, foster it, stimulate it.
Here lays 'the gold'. Inside!

One of the insights I had that evening I like to share a bit. Try to put it in words.

On a special moment I was back in time.
The subject we talked about (money) brought me there.
It was such a strong flashback that I can get it back very easily now, on every moment I like.
I was around twelve years old.
It was a time I was exploring my self and the world/ universe/ life.
Before the time of high school and adolescence started.
It felt I was in full power.
I felt one with everything (what you seem to loose more when you're not a child anymore). With the whole universe. And felt just strong, felt 'me'.
I was kind of 'fresh'.
Not spoiled/ injured yet by all what would come (yes, what is life too).
The freedom to be without hindering that was in those days quite big.

So what I gained by having that flashback?

For example that I am strong.
I truly be as big (what's not the good word) as the universe.
Circumstances and others makes me often make me feel different.
But: I am that. One with all. No matter what I do, or don't do.
(no matter how others see me and approach me)
Next to that: that the universe, and so also all that I see around me is perfect.
It is what it is, with all it's pain and problems.
Yes, it's easy to say living a good life in a 'rich' country. I know.

About this last last two sentences I like to write a whole blog post itself. It's a big and important subject for me.

But to round this one off:
I am thankful I got a big gift this evening.
A gift through another, from myself to myself:)
Jut a remembrance of a great feeling I had when I was young.
A gift what was laying deep inside me.
Brought on the surface by a sublime colleague.
To let people see their selves during talks. Isn't that a great thing?
Talks with space.., freedom... wow. I'm not a big talker. But such deep talks... I love.

August 16, 2015

Bleeding. Fertile.

Ai-ai, beautiful words of Adebayo Akomolafe again:

"Underneath today’s blackened skies, we are bleeding, but this bleeding isn’t the kind of wound that desires to be cured, bandaged or sanitized away into oblivion. This bleeding is a sign of gushing fertility. It is a ‘menstrual wound’ – without a ‘solution’; and it is a message to slow down, to enter into the dreamy, quiet, slow, orgasmic, ecstatic and visionary embrace of different ways of knowing and seeing. Continuing with the old assumptions about the absoluteness of human agency and the deadness of the world, or the simple Newtonian linearity between ‘cause’ and ‘effect’, or the immediacy of rationality might prove counterproductive to our attempts to address our deepest crises. That’s why perhaps today’s most profound question is ‘how do we find each other?’ How do we reclaim our alliances with the unthinkable and the unsayable? What lies ‘outside’ this pale fragment of modern existence? How do we re-entangle ourselves with the sacredness of life? And there is no final answer to that or fixed resolution. All we have is a working out of ‘the’ question, a realization that entire universes are born in the momentariness of an embrace. Maybe that’s enough. The ‘gift’ we seek isn’t some abstraction floating in a vacuum, awaiting the right expertise. We are the gift – us, in all our mattering, in grief, in joy, in confusion, in awe. Nothing could be more revolutionary, more fertile, than finding the expansiveness that is us, and holding each other in wordless rituals and spontaneous hugs of rapid joy. It may not look like much, but it’s how cosmoses are born. I celebrate your horniness."
Bayo Akomolafe

August 11, 2015

So large

"But everything that may someday be possible for many people, the solitary man can now, already, prepare and build with his own hands, which make fewer mistakes. Love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away, you write, and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast. And if what is near you is far away, then your vastness is already among the stars and is very great; be happy about your growth, in which of course you can't take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind; be confident and calm in front of them and don't torment them with your doubts and don't frighten them with your faith or joy, which they wouldn't be able to comprehend. Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them, which doesn't necessarily have to alter when you yourself change again and again; when you see them, love life in a form that is not your own and be indulgent toward those who are growing old, who are afraid of the aloneness that you trust.
Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it."
- Rainer Maria Rilke

August 10, 2015

Being in tune

Contrary to popular misconception, karma has nothing to do with punishment and reward. It exists as part of our holographic universe’s binary or dualistic operating system only to teach us responsibility for our creations—and all things we experience are our creations. When these creations are out of tune with Source, they often manifest in the disharmony known as disease. This can occur not only in individuals but in entire civilizations. In both cases, disease, which is typically considered a crisis, simultaneously serves as a powerful stimulus for transformation and transcendence.
Sol Luckman

August 8, 2015

To children

What do we tell our children now the climate change is so obvious?
That it't them who fool us?
That it's us - fools?
Or the immense greatness of the Universe; that we're really a part of all this immense beauty and that we always have the chance to do it different - person by person?
Because, in the ground, the Universe is a good Universe?

So in short: the chocking facts together with a negative underline, or the chocking facts with a neutral underline?

"The way it will work out will be the best anyway (= how Life 'works').
You can try your best to change the current situation in a good way. By living the real you.
The change lays inside you. The outer (actions) mirror the inner. 
Your actions come from out that
The heart.
Where it starts, where it ends."

Climate change and the whole situation in the world. An over, over, overwhelming story.
And probably we're gonna see more and more dead...

But I think in the same time we also come closer to Life.
And that is the story I'll always wanna tell the children: the story of Life.
I don't know the whole story (fortunately, because it is my Life and I may read more moment by moment) but got some glimpses.

That is what I feel I want to share and what my story is.
To them. 
And to myself.
And hidden in everything I do I think...

August 5, 2015


"Must" read:

And hear:)

Why I personally like it so much: for me it is so clear that pump in money in something doesn't work. How sweet it looks like.
Its about working together, building together. Independent from a group of 'noble' people, often seen as heroes.

August 4, 2015

Drive (to thrive)

"Whether we are talking of slavery in its past or present incarnation, robbery and rape in their various forms, spousal abuse, child abuse, elder abuse, men abuse, women abuse, employee or employer abuse or any other form of violence, it takes a profound sense of powerlessness to force anyone to do anything." Said a Cleaner.
What has cleaning got to do with it? Quite a lot. Cleaning is removing dirt and revealing truth, not just of matter but also of the matter, any matter.

I really like the work of Zenith Cleaners in Canada.
For me they come so the core.
One, they try to change the way we look to cleaning. And cleaners. It is such important work!
Two, they show us how important cleaning is in our 'inner life'.
It brings me to the fact: we are the ones who have really to do this ourselves.
No teacher, guru, coach, no any ritual, no self-help book, no course, no method, no tradition, nor any healer or who ever can do it for us. 
And they even can't guide us there.
Your own drive to reveal truth.  Your own drive to become clean. Your own drive to become clear. 
That's everything.
You & you alone.

July 28, 2015


If you're interested in change and society read this little piece on Medium.
"Thoughts on an incoherent society by a quantum physicist"
Me, it made me shout inside: 'oh, YES!!'
The small article made me kind of 'full' and happy. That I have often have with a great found. Now there is a need to write more about this.
To mingle it with things I see around.
But..that another time.

July 25, 2015

Care #4

It can be used for great things also.
I just saw this beautiful update:

How DEEP it resonates and gets in. Wow.

The last four words. For me highly important.
How difficult. We humans we'all think we know it better; but those thoughts did arise from a fear there isn't any care at all.

I think the words are really capturing my personal religion. The greatness of (the flow of) Life.

July 24, 2015


Together we are even billionaires or trillionaires.
What if we'all gave a little energy and money (just a very, very little) to a simular  project? 
I'm so sure we could do so much!


'Be true to you' doesn't mean stick with your ideas, your conclusions, your statements, etc.
That all is fixed. 
How beautiful they may seem, they are like a wall.
The word your in 'your ideas, your conclusions, etc.' already shows that it's narrow.
The real you doesn't speak about 'my'.
The real you sees 'us'.

'Be true to you' means stay with your core. What is your heart, what is space and freedom- what is a synonyme for truth.

July 23, 2015

A choice.

We hear a lot of sounds that a part of  mankind want to manipulate us.
We can simply see it, the facts are there (have a look in a mainstream shopping street)
Mainstream media is in hands of 5% of all media-companies..
We are fooled by the pharmacy mafia.
And so on.
And so on...
I totally agree: some people want more and more money (=power).

We can be angry and upset.
And stay angry and upset.
Or we can give it a place.
Otherwise we fall in a trap.

And if we fall in that trap we are not happy anymore.
We'll see a dark cloud over everything.
We feel (half-)doomed.
We feel sad about all victims, and angry at the suppressors.
Constantly feeling sad and angry as an underlying thing. In all we do.
Constantly feeling: 'it is not just'.

Being angry, upset and hurt is normal.
And we should.
But when we stay in this feeling, how can we than make healthy change?

Good change happen from out a place of abundance.
From out peace.
Peace = Freedom, and it's our core.
What can change/ break our core? Nothing. In fact we (also the victims) are unbreakable/ infinite.
By staying angry, unhappy and ungrateful we are in the fall of the suppressors, in the same 'field'/ 'state'.

We can see the un-justness.
We should.
But we shouldn't make it the truth (the truth is we'all are infinite).

There are huge 'mistakes' made in our history.
Huge 'mistakes' are made by us now.
That's why the world is as it is.
When in history we truly lived out of trust, truth and abundance?
In all decades we served the king, the priest, the pharaoh, etc.
We gave our power away, what felt safe.
We played small.
And no, I don't see this as manipulating, but as a choice*.
Than it is so natural and clear we don't have the power now.

Time to reclaim it.
To live from your own peace and freedom.
Your own core.

Your heart.

A choice.
A huge choice.
The biggest choice possible.
Claiming the real power (truth). Inside you.
By this healthier ways to live (for the all of us) will be a natural result.

*a choice everyone is born with. You always have the choice 'go with the mainstream' or go for what is right/ truth. Everywhere. In every situation. But yes.. sometimes its hard as hell and does it mean: dead...


To do good, isn't actually that good.

Doing good is just normal.
If you (really) love your child, you immediately love all children.
If you (really) love someone (or yourself) and want the best for him/her, you immediately want to do it for the rest of mankind (/all life)

To love means wanting the best for all.

And as love is our -true- being (as I think), how can 'doing good' be so special?

So, a good deed. What does it say?
That you don't live your true self.
Otherwise it would be in everything, continually.

It's time to just do.
Not time for 'good deeds'.
To do. Our best.
And not divide life in 'work' vs. 'good deeds'.
Or 'daily life' vs. 'good deeds'.
To do good is Living.
I think we should do our best in Living.
Truly living. Learning. Open.
Listen to ourselves. Being quit inside.

True (the only thing 'good' in my eyes) to ourselves.


What a gift!
Each morning when we wake up we have somebody - Yourbody- to be true to.
body what knows more than we think.
A body with a treasure inside which shows us the biggest lessons.

Your heart.
It wants to speak so let us listen and be true!

Being truthful.
A 'just' world starts close.
With a 'just' you. Moment by moment..

That's Life!
What a gift! 

July 21, 2015

July 15, 2015


Human centered business.
Business should be more like that.
Having eye for the whole.
In every detail.
Because it is natural.
Thus the way to sustain.

An organism is a collaboration with all cells involved, strongly working together.
Every cell has it's identity, but on the other hand together they are one.

By what do they 'act' as one?
What makes them be one?
What makes a body want to be alive?

It is gifted.
With Life (something unexplainable and most incredible wonderful).
The body wants to sustain this, and it knows it's correct way to do so.
Every cell is deeply related and interconnected. They work together in the closest way on the deepest level.

A healthy business/ organization should have this as a living example.
Relate, interact on a deep level.
And the gift in the organization?
That should be the vision.
The point of conception of the organization.
The starting (and end-) point.
The core.
This is what I see as the Life- blood of an organization/ business.

How do we connect with our team members?
What is the ground?
Do we actually really connect?
How deep?
Is the blood running or is it stucked somewhere?
Huge questions in my eyes.
And really something to 'work' on; connection, bounding, trust..


Professional. What does it say?
Often it means: 'efficient'.
But efficience is something mechanic. It's 'smart', it's 'head'.
A lot of attention goes to professionalism.
That's where all business schools stand for.
I'm wondering.
Is that what the world needs?
Aren't we in need of 'humanity' in the first place?
That means 'being human'.
You can never say that you're an expert in being human. Professional Human.
Because it's something to work on moment by moment and you're never done.
So the question is: do we need more traditional business schools and focus on professionalism (what is always partial) or schools focussed on being human; schools where you can learn to have eye for the whole in every little detail.

Me I defenitely would say the latter..

July 14, 2015

Coach versus Friend

A coach nowadays:
I offer my professional help and guidance.
You pay.

Don't we trap in something by doing this? Just questioning..

Since when we have to pay for help?
Where oh where it went wrong?
Is this natural?

Maybe it's me. Maybe I'm crazy. 
(What I think I am, by the way. As we all are)

Clearness #3

In stead of healers and coaches we should call ourselves cleaners.
Cleaning our own dirt, moment by moment, instead of having this subtle arrogance of 'know that, been 'there' '.
No one of us 'is always there'.
Work on the ground.
See everyone as equal, and don't see yourself more as whomever.
You have to clean as anyone else has.

Clearness #2

A little more about 'cleaning yourself'.
Is it a method?
Something special you can learn in a workshop or training? Something to do after you're finished from work?
Is it a ritual? 
Something very unique?

No. In my eyes it's basic.
It is seeying your place in the universe.
It has to do with respect.
For Life. For The Other.
No more, no less.

And something to do every single moment.


They can be 'dirty'.
When we don't hear what the other has to say. When we focus on what we have to say (loudly). When there is no space.
In this way relations (whatever kind of relation) don't grow als they could grow.
It's so important to 'clean' yourself from 'dirt'. Dust of the past. Dust of feeling-yourself-more-important. Heavy dirt of having the idea 'I am more than you' (for example more well- spoken, more educated or..whatever what doesn't say one *%^ thing about your real core).
Something to do the whole day through.

Guru speaking.

July 9, 2015



Question everything. Always..
Skepticism isn't bad. But question that:)

"Skepticism is not cynicism or denial; it is the state of mind that does not agree quickly, that does not accept or take things for granted. A mind that accepts is seeking not enlightenment or wisdom, but refuge." - J. Krishnamurti

July 4, 2015

Wherever you work...


Some people speak out there intention an wishes easily.
They speak out their heart.
For example: I'll do this ...(fill in everything).

But imagine. Someone spoke up, but in the time you wished it would happen it didn't happen though.

Than I can still see the very good thing in speaking out the vision of how someone wanted to see it.
That it didn't happen in the time you or others wanted to see it has to do with many things.
Nothing is a straight line, isn't it?
Do you have to shut your mouth and have to know everything exactly, before you can make your actions toward your vision?

I have big respect for people who speak out their wishes, and do.
We cannot foresight things neither control the time.

When it isn't visible the time we wish it to see happened, it doesn't say it won't happen.

It all has to do with love.
Is it said with love, is the intention real, from deep inside?
Than it doesn't deserve bad words.

But do you (speaking bad about this person) , than in my eyes it has to do with your own distrust in Life.


The beauty of so to live that you can give (truly of yourself)
Then there's something uplifting.

Yes, an artwork can do so too.

But also 'just' a smile from someone.
Or for example a warm welcoming feeling in a place you where you see people struggle but see that they know how to be there for each other.

Art, in my eyes, has everything to do with a relation the one has with Life.

Sparks of  'where it is about '.

Art as a kind of language of Life, the "Thing" so big we don't have word and explanations for it..

Life. True Liveliness.
What is Art. For me.

Priceless Art.

June 27, 2015


Always new

What was truth yesterday
is not truth today.

What is truth today,
is not truth tomorrow:

Truth has no continuity.

It is the mind which wants to make the experience
which it calls truth
and such a mind shall not know truth.

Truth is always new.

It is to see the same smile
and see that smile newly.
To see the same person
and see that person anew,
to see the waving palms anew,

to meet Life anew.


June 20, 2015


Is there a goal?
There is only the path of becoming ever wiser, even more loving, and ever richer in our capacities to partner and commune with Life.

~Roy Reynolds

June 14, 2015

Creative givers

From the website Attainable Utopias. 

The entrepreneur

takes from between.
That is what the word entrepreneur literally meant. It has therefor become associated with a rather forceful, or even predatory idea of business acumen. Arguably, it was inspired by interpretations of Adam Smith and Charles Darwin.  


The entredonneur

is a 'creative giver'.

My term 'entredonneur' (Wood, 1990) was not intended as a direct criticism of 'enterprise' itself. Nevertheless, offers an invaluable practical counterpoint to it.The most extreme idea of 'taking' is as unlikely as an extreme idea of pure 'giving'. However, by placing the two at opposite ends of a continuum we are better able to map the transition from one to the other. It may help us to identify how business, and other modes of enterprise, might be re-envisioned. It implies a less wasteful mode of living within an (inevitable) solar economy. In theory, at the macro level, tendencies to 'pure greed' may balance the will to 'pure altruism'.


Live in your own little corner. Keep your knowledge for yourself. Keep your clients for yourself.


stop, and throw away that stupidity and start collaborating.

There is so much more than doing business 'the normal way' !

Be part of the change of our economic system!

June 7, 2015

Be there.

Let's compare a family-life with the way of living in the broadest sense.

When there is a little one you have to be there with all your love.
You yourself must take good care for yourself, to be in the best condition to care for this beautiful being.

This being came here for a reason.
It wants to live. And give. Contribute.
You yourself should be there. To facilitate and give space as much you can.
So this being can be it wants to be.

In a warm, safe surrounding together with freedom it will learn and grow the most.
You are the one to take care for this. To provide this as much you can.

Now compare this beautiful little one with all other living beings. Closeby, faraway. The all of us.
As we 'all have the same core.

Shouldn't we exactly have to do the same?

To be there, with all our love.
To take good care for ourselves so we can care for others.
To be there. 'Simply '(but not easy) to be there.
To facilitate and give space.
To create a warm and safe surrounding for others.
To give each other the freedom to 'fail', learn and grow.

We' all should be the ones to take care for this.
Actually we're all parents.
We should live to 'help' eachother grow. So we can contribute of ourselves as much we' all can.

June 6, 2015


Websites do have a typical vibe.
Like places have.

Imagine an online place.
A place for everyone to gather and where the vibe is like a great festival.
A place to meet people and where we know we'all have something in common, the same intention.

A place what breaths action.
Positive action.
A place where you'll get inspired.
Where you'll find much information on change in many fields.
Structured and easy to find.
Where you can get in contact with many people.
People from all corners of the world.
Where sharing is not seen as something special, something good.
But as something natural.
Where it's about co-creation.
Helping eachother grow.
What makes that a positive spiral will emerge.

A place where it's all about:  'What do I have to give to the world, what do I offer and what are my needs?'
'What could we do together?'
Instead of ' What's in it for me?'

A place for change.

Imagine.. a kind of online festival.
A great vibe.
Where it's about working together on a more beautiful world.
A place to be there for eachother.
Where it's about care for eachother.
And the world.

A dream?
No...! It's coming soon!

June 2, 2015


World issues.
Personal issues.

The world as our perfect mirror.

What do we see?
A mess created by greed.

Just change the symptoms?! Like cleaning the mirror? Innovating without radical change?

I would say: all people who see it's a greed-based society and thus do things differently, let's also organize different.
Not doing things on small islands, but come together.

In my eyes we need another place than facebook to share and come together.
More a place to act together. Not just to share information. But to do.
A place for rebuilding.

An online hub for positive action.
A place what breaths change and hope.
A place where we build, worldwide, on different structures.
Where not greed is the foundation, but abundance.
Where it's about giving, sharing and caring. Where it's about 'this is my gift' instead of 'what's in it for me?'
Where business is grounded in love and care for the world. Where the 'we' speaks louder than the 'me,me, me'

Such a place.
Not just a dream. A plan.
Not just a plan.
My road! 

May 30, 2015

Beyond Believe

"Wow, wow..this really resonate with me"
Often I get this kind of surprise by articles/blog posts of Dave Pollard.

I would like to write some more about this, and explain why I like it so much, but at this moment I have little time and will just share this article.
It's short, but with a big message.
Here it is. Maybe you'll enjoy it too!

May 26, 2015


I think we every day should feel like this:


May 24, 2015

An experiment

Another beautiful post in my facebook-timeline.
Thank you John Kellden.

John Kellden shared Yasuhiko Genku Kimura's post to the group: Conversation.
12 hrs ·
Read it slowly, a couple of times, let it sink in. Then listen to your own silent, witnessing voice within and the everpresent gentle sounds of nature around you at this very moment.

We are each an experiment, a novel experiment, in being human in this dramatic scenario universe.
Having lived my life as such an experiment, I have made countless errors and mistakes. Through those countless errors and mistakes, I have learned what I consider to be the primary lesson of life and existence.
That primary lesson is learning what it means to learn. When I ask myself what I have really gained from my life-long experiment, the answer is the increased and increasing ability to learn. And to me this ability is what wisdom is.
This wisdom consists primarily of a sense of wonderment and a force of quest. Insights and realizations that arise out of this quest and wonderment are ephemerally secondary to the living permanence of quest and wonderment.
Living your life as an experiment in quest and wonderment is tantamount to living your life authentically and thus being your self authentically because you as an experiment are novel and unique.
In the world of science, in the world of certainty, all experiments are required to be repeatable. Your life as a cosmically unique and novel experiment has unrepeatability as its essential characteristic. Truth is revealed in such unrepeatable moments of life as a novel experiment.

So many pieces of the puzzle!

Michel Bauwens at OuiShare Fest.

"A system based on co-creation, that's where I see it heading to."

May 23, 2015


What do you want as a parent* for children?
Isn't it that their being is seen as important?
That they can be fully theirselves?

That they can share the unique gifts they are?
Their being, what you saw already in the first hours they were alive?

To see them as a gift to the world, to make it more beautiful?

What's standing in the way to see them blossom? Don't we need to work on that?

To create different structures, with more freedom and to live our own life totally different, to show them it is possible?

Those new structures are needed everywhere, in every field in society.
Whatever we do, wherever we are, we can bring some good change.
Space. Freedom.

(*or of course as anybody who sees the unbelievable beauty of children/ human life)

May 19, 2015

Crisis. The Big Business.

'One of the least noticeable aspects of today's crises is how the very modern configuration we work hard to perpetuate deadens our ability to feel the urgency of those things we strive to correct. 
We have gotten used to speaking about climate crisis, about the 11th hour, and about impending doom if the tide does not turn.
Meanwhile we are constantly inundated with disaster movies for good measure - not to speak of the constantly scrambling pixels of news reporters speaking in their usual sing-song fashion about earthquakes in Nepal, about the horror of young lives lost in the Gaza strip, or about the spectacle of a million people marching for ecological justice. 
Still, it seems like we've lost our ability to panic - even though we constantly feed on it. We've lost the intensity and immediacy that comes with knowing the world in a particular way. It does feel to us like we could carry on with our lives in the ways we have - and it wouldn't really matter. 
Crisis is big business and busy-ness. 
Crisis is the new black. 
The very 'performance' and enactment of climate change is a creature of the modern apparatus that 'produces' the ideas that we, our bodies, how we navigate the materiality of the world, are somehow distant from the weird motions of nature. 
Little wonder each successive climate change summit produces legislative monoliths and pacts that become the reason for the next summit. 
Meanwhile, our walls continue to climb high; our tractors continue to dig into the earth to make way for giant real estate projects; and, benevolent organizations and NGOs - intent on saving our forests to reduce greenhouse gases - hire hippies to place economic value on trees, based on how much carbon they are able to absorb. 
Until we relinquish our syllables of distance, and learn to find each other, we will remain immured in attempts to fix that which does not want to be resolved. 
The rushing waters are more threatening to the casual bystander than it is to the man caught in its rage.'

Great words again from Adebayo Aklomafe.

May 9, 2015

The key of p2p

Michel Bauwens explains peer to peer human relationships.
"It's all about enabling and empowering human participation. That is the key.
What it actually does, in a pure way, it makes systems less efficient.
It's decentralization.
Ownership; where lays the power?
It's about being in charge of own productive resources."

May 2, 2015


Love of truth. Love of Life (< really worth reading!)
See how Jiddu Krishnamurti describes philosophy. Far more than interesting to me!

"The task of philosophy is to break the continuity of the conditioned consciousness. It is to end the psychological content of the human mind and regenerate it, like the phoenix. Regeneration is the understanding of the truth which is the emptiness of mind. Truth is the mind which does not contain a 'thing' put together by thought. It is freedom which is totally independent of thought. It is the mind which is devoid of the content of division, contradiction, conflict and so on. It is the mind which is whole and sane. Truth is 'nothing'. It is the mind which is no-thing or nothingness."

Not a mind without a thought (what is simply impossible, and what also it shouldn't be the reason or way to meditate), but a mind independent of thought.
A mind who really sees how the process of thinking works, and what it does. 

May 1, 2015

Very, very unimportant.

Knowmads Hanoi

So great to see Knowmads' vision about education expanding.
Here Knowmads Hanoi on the Vietnamese television.



What does the word actually mean?
That something can sustain.
Year after year after year..

For example, the sun sustains.
It's giving warmth year after year, infinite.

Are all our green brands really that sustain?
Do our man-made green products (less-bad indeed) really sustain?
Often those expensive brands have in my eyes so much 'ego'. "Look at me! How great I am!"

It goes so much deeper.
In my eyes it has a lot to do with the maker of the product (and other people involved in the creating process).
How is the relation of him/her and the world?
What he/ she really gives?
Is there enough freedom to do that? In the whole chain of the process of bringing it to the market?
How can people be themselves in the organization?

Freedom to be yourself*.
Working from out that.
For me the most important thing in the topic 'sustainability'.
Than there is really giving.
Like the sun. Something infinite.

*what means one with the *something-bigger* (call it the Universe), in flow.

April 28, 2015


There is power in the world.
Brute power (what is a synonym for power; brutality. Harshness).

But does this makes us victims?
Being suppressed, does it makes us unfree?
Not in our core.

It can make us stronger.
We're born free.
Life, love and freedom are synonyms too.

Let's be there for each other, really alive.
Making healthy choices. Rebuilding other ways.
Independently from the old structures (based on power).

By always acting from our core (freedom).
Listening to that.. 
What do you think if we'all would do that?

 'All' is too optimistic of course.
But what if we -and we're with many- just begin? Do, change, everywhere. In all fields in society.

We're doing it already. I know.
The world-situation is terrible.
But on the same moment: there is such a beautiful change going on.
By people who never can see themselves as victims.
Because they know what is the only real power:
Lifeforce, love, freedom. What's within.


April 25, 2015


If we go, all together, to our work because simply it's 'our job', to do it for the money..,than it's not a suprise the world is in the state it is.

It means we do things day by day, 'just' because we don't see another option to earn enough money.
It means we're victims.
In my eyes it is truly, truly sad.
Because is that why you are born? To go to school and than have your job? To listen to your manager, or be a manager and let others listen to you?
That you have to work right, how it ought to be? As efficient a possible?

Where is the place for yourself?
For that what makes you you?
For what you're born, for what you deeply feel you should do?
For what you have to give the world?

It's so sad.
SO much real talent is wasted.
SO much real value.

We throw it away! Like its not excisting. Not important.
And what is *it* what we throw away, all together?

Lifeliness. Love. Freedom. Sprankles.

Just to fit in.
Just for money.

And than it's strange the world suffers, is on fire?

Isn't it a perfect mirror?

It's a sad view.
But so logically.
'Cause where are WE?

April 11, 2015

Celebrating #2

Another post on 'celebrating'.
In dutch again! 

April 5, 2015


My kind of celebrating and view on Easter.
In dutch.